Hello all, and welcome to our special building-your-playroom introduction!
Starting out can seem overwhelming with many choices and activities you and your partners want to explore.
Today, we help sort through the chaos and get you on the right path to a fun and exciting playroom experience.
Key Takeaways
- You don’t have to spend a fortune to start a decent playroom.
- Start with a variety to explore what you and your partner like.
- Don’t be afraid to use a toy uniquely.
- Shop for items in unusual places to get the most bang for your buck.
How We Test BDSM Toys
We at Sextopedia take our play very seriously. Every toy we review is thoroughly tested to ensure it meets our high safety, durability, and value standards. Each toy is evaluated in 4 weighted categories and then given an overall composite score based on its performance.
We rate all BDSM sex toys based on the following criteria and weights:
- Ability to induce orgasms (40% Weight)
- Build Quality and durability (30% Weight)
- Affordability (20% Weight)
- Easy to clean (10% Weight)
We use a rating scale of 1-5 with the following interpretation:
- 1 – Poor
- 2 – Needs Improvement
- 3 – Meets Expectations
- 4 – Exceeds Expectations
- 5 — Exceptional
While we fully acknowledge that everyone will have a different experience with every toy, we do our best to provide a comprehensive overview to get the most bang for your buck. You can find more information about our in-house BDSM toys testing methodology here.
Our Best BDSM Sex Toys List:
- Best For Bondage: Sportsheet Under the Bed Restraint System
- Best For Impact Play: Huntley Rubber Handle Jumping Bat
- Best For Anal Play: Adam & Eve 4 Pieve Anal Plug Kit
- Best Small Vibrator For BDSM Play: Doc Johnson iVibe Select iQuiver
- Best Dildo For BDSM Play: Doc Johnson Crystal Jellies 18” Double Dong
- Bonus: Mystery BDSM Sex Toy Recommendation
Best for Bondage: Sportsheets Under The Bed Restraint System
You can’t talk about the world of BDSM and not talk about some bondage. Several things make this restraint system take the top place.
The Sportsheet is the original name for under-the-bed restraints. That’s not just a brag; it’s a fact. They invented the under-the-bed system to allow anyone, regardless of their openness on the topic or unique room design, to have some fantastic tie points. You slide it under the mattress and are ready to go with four solid tie points.
This is one of the first items I purchased for my personal play space. Now I have a metal bedframe with about a million tie points, but this is still one of my favorite items for my travel bag.
These are all about body-safe materials. There is nylon, Velcro, and nickel-free metal for those sensitive to that sort of thing. The materials are strong and, best of all, super easy to clean. You can toss the entire thing into the washing machine without needing a complicated process or special cleaners.
Another reason to love the Sportsheet Under The Bed Restraint System is its versatility. It has four lined adjustable cuffs for wrists and ankles from 4”-12”, the center connector strap, and four attachment straps. Everything is super adjustable, so you can create very loose bonds or those that are very tight.
Another aspect of the versatility of this set is that you can use the same system with leather or metal cuffs when you decide to go a bit harder. And the quality is top-notch. I’ve never had an issue with straps breaking or coming loose. It also uses good-quality hook and loop closures, so they stay where you put them.
This system is a little pricy, especially considering that there are much cheaper alternatives. But this is one of those times when you get what you pay for. I’ve tried the cheaper sets in the past, and they don’t hold as well and are much more prone to breaking. That’s not savings when you must replace them; a system that doesn’t work correctly also increases the safety risk.
Overall Score
- Ability to induce Orgasm: 3
- Build Quality and Durability: 5
- Affordability: 3.5
- Easy to Clean: 5
- Total Score: 3.9
The two things that limit this score are its ability to induce orgasm, which for most doesn’t happen simply from being bound, and affordability. While not overpriced for the quality, it can be a bit higher than you might expect for this product. It is worth it, however.
Best for Impact Play: Huntley Rubber Handle Jumping Bat
I fully acknowledge that this may seem like a massive leap for a beginner but hear me out.
First, these are easy to find in top quality at a great price. Why? Because they are still used for horses. Any good farm supply store will carry these at excellent quality, usually under $30.
These come in various lengths so you can find what fits best for you. My personal favorite is the Huntley Rubber Handle Jumping Bat. It features a rubber handle, a fiberglass shaft, and a leather keeper. The rubber handle lets this little jewel perform even more tasks than the obvious. I like using it as a dildo for some added spice and teasing.
Another thing that traditionally adds to the versatility is that this is a lightweight item. You can use it to tease and almost tickle with the touch, or you can use more force and create some solid sting.
I love how easy it is to clean as well. I scrub it with soap and water and use a leather conditioner on the keeper. It’s a piece I’ve had and used regularly for years at this point.
Overall Score
- Ability to induce Orgasm: 4
- Build Quality and Durability: 5
- Affordability: 5
- Easy to Clean: 4
- Total Score: 4.4
I scored this one high in ability to produce orgasm in part because of my love of off-label use, although there are plenty of people out there that can and do cum just from the impact aspect. These are built for real-world use by equestrians, so they are sturdy and built to last and last. And because they are meant to be used with animals, they often get dirty, so they are super easy to clean.
Best for Anal Play: Adam & Eve 4 Piece Anal Plug Kit
Not everyone is interested in anal play; if you aren’t, this is absolutely an item you can skip. But, if you are interested in exploring this area, this is a perfect starter kit.
This kit is made of TPE rubber free of latex and phthalate. They are incredibly safe to use with most people and are both firm and flexible. What I especially love is the base. The base is made to fit your body’s natural curves while ensuring you don’t end up with a lost toy.
The Adam & Eve 4 Piece Anal Plug Kit includes a bubble plug that is 3.1” long and .9” wide, a ribbed plug 3.5” long and .9” wide, a smooth plug that is 4” long and 1” wide, and a ball plug that is 4.4” long and 1.5” wide.
The assortment is nice because it lets you and your partner explore what works for you and what size fits the best. Plus, these are small enough to be comfortable for a beginner while still large enough to work for someone more experienced.
And the material makes cleanup easy with warm water and soap, which is always a win in my book.
Overall Score
- Ability to induce Orgasm: 3
- Build Quality and Durability: 5
- Affordability: 5
- Easy to Clean: 5
- Total Score: 4.2
I scored these a little low in the ability to produce orgasm because so much variation in personal experience affects this score. They are small for my taste but add something when paired with other activities and toys.
Best Small Vibrator: Doc Johnson iVibe Select iQuiver
There is always something to be said for a single item that does a lot. That’s precisely how this vibrator made the list. Versatility makes it a great addition, no matter what format you use for play. That’s why the Doc Johnson iVibe Select iQuiver makes the list. The iVibe includes six heads and ten vibration patterns. That’s almost like having 60 toys in one!
The pieces are all body safe, odorless, and hypoallergenic. The kit comes complete with a storage bag. As all the best toys are, this one is USB rechargeable so that you can play and play. And, although it is small, measuring only around 5 ½” with the attachments, it packs a powerful motor to help you get where you want to be.
Overall Score
- Ability to induce Orgasm: 4
- Build Quality and Durability: 3.5
- Affordability: 4
- Easy to Clean: 5
- Total Score: 3.9
I decreased the build quality score a bit because some people have had issues with the battery, but Doc Johnson does a fine job handling any issues you may have. Additionally, this little jewel is a pro at creating orgasms without packing much size or constantly being on the highest setting.
Best Dildo: Doc Johnson Crystal Jellies 18” Double Dong
I am a fan of the Doc Johnson brand. I love this one especially, and I’ll be honest when I say it is an absolute staple in my toybox. I love this one so much that I own 2.
The Doc Johnson Crystal Jellies 18” Double Dong comes in your choice of 3 colors. The material is firm enough to get the job done while still being flexible enough for some great play. While the most apparent use of a double dong is with a friend, this one has just the right amount of flex to fill both holes at once for an incredible double penetration experience when I play solo.
All Doc Johnson offerings are made with body-safe materials. Another thing to love is the antibacterial formula they use in all their toys, helping make it easier to keep them sanitary and ready for the next round.
The beauty of this piece is that you can use every inch of it. With a circumference of 5 ¾”, you are definitely going to feel it. Plus, the veiny texture creates just the right amount of realism when you touch it.
Clean-up is a breeze using mild soap and water, so you are always ready for round 2 no matter how messy things get.
Overall Score
- Ability to induce Orgasm: 5
- Build Quality and Durability: 5
- Affordability: 4
- Easy to Clean: 5
- Total Score: 4.8
BONUS RECOMMEND: Bondage Boutique Red Hot Passion Bedroom Bondage Kit
Sometimes the best thing you can do is embrace easy. This ready-made kit includes a blindfold, gag, flogger, wrist and ankle restraints, and a bondage strap. This is a great way to jump into the world of BDSM without investing a lot in gear.
The pieces are smaller and gentler than you will find in the more advanced kits, making them great for beginners. They can help guide you into more advanced pieces without breaking the bank in the experimental stage.
Everything is made with comfort in mind. The easy-to-use Velcro closures make getting in and out of the restraints a breeze.
The Bondage Boutique Red Hot Passion Bedroom Bondage Kit only runs about $50 with all the pieces. And most parts can be tossed right into the washing machine, making cleanup as simple as every other aspect of this kit.
Overall Score
- Ability to induce Orgasm: 3
- Build Quality and Durability: 4
- Affordability: 5
- Easy to Clean: 4
- Total Score: 3.8
This is not the best kit you would ever purchase, and the pieces are meant for beginners. But, if you want to give BDSM a try without making a considerable investment, it’s an okay starter.
Why You Should Trust Us
We are passionate about what we do and love to share our passion with you. We take the time to get to know the products we recommend and refuse to be swayed by simply pretty packaging.
Our toy and gear testers have years of experience in BDSM toys and gear. We have tried them and sorted through what works and what doesn’t so you can find the toys and gear that provide the best value and the most orgasms.
HarliQ is passionate about all things BDSM and is always ready to take one or several for the team. She doesn’t sugarcoat her opinion on what works and what doesn’t. Her years of experience in the community and her willingness to ask and answer tough questions about toys and gear help you have confidence in the products she endorses.
Best BDSM Toys FAQs
Where is the best place to buy BDSM toys?
Amazon is a great resource, but you must know what you are looking for. It’s easy to get caught up in the lower prices on similar items only to end up with an inferior product. The biggest issue is that the quality can create safety issues and ruin a play session.
Offline, it’s about finding what works. As mentioned earlier, many places are not sex or fetish shops that can give you some fantastic items at great prices. Lowes, Home Depot, Tractor Supply Store, and Atwood make the list.
What if I want more advanced items in my playroom?
That’s one of the things that make these items so great. They work well as a solid base to build a more intense and specific space because they are versatile. And if you decide that BDSM is not for you, you haven’t invested a fortune trying things out.
Where can I get recommendations for more advanced gear and equipment?
There are some great resources online and in the community. Don’t be afraid to ask questions and explore local dungeons for ideas on what you like and what pieces are worth the investment. Local meetups that are non-sexual, such as Munchies, can also be a great place to learn.
