BDSM Public Humiliation | Explained

Someone’s worst humiliation is somebody else’s best momentary entertainment. Public humiliation covers any type of embarrassment ritual in front of the eyes of other people. 

In a BDSM context, the term public humiliation refers to an erotic humiliation where the victims are physically or verbally humiliated in front of their family members, friends, or even strangers. In many cases, public disgrace is hidden behind the phrase “humiliation play.”

Types of Public Humiliation

Public humiliation can include dressing up in a fetish item or another particular piece of clothing, being incapable of talking in social situations, being forced to remove their underwear, being fastened in a noticeable public place, and much more. Some types of public humiliation can be easily spotted, but some dishonor may happen and pass unnoticeably. This humiliation may occur when a person is wearing something inappropriate in public but under their clothes.

Public humiliation supports the command dynamic of a typical BDSM couple, forcing the person to feel weak while providing the dominant partner a flash of power.

This type of public humiliation may be performed by both parties. It means that men and women have equal chances to find themselves in this situation. Also, psychology and emotional distress are equally present nowadays, and the victims are afraid to ask for help, or they honestly enjoy the act of public humiliation.

Role of Humiliation

Humiliation activates the sensitive buttons additionally when it comes to sexual embarrassment. Because of this, paradoxically we need to increase awareness about this problem, encourage people to speak about this in public and be sure that we will get the desired result without signaling abusive behavior.

For instance, a person may enjoy and have fun while being insulted, but truly devastating and crushed if insulted or humiliated in other ways.

Humiliation play is linked to sexual fetishism, and the non-sexual rituals may turn sexualized by provocation and can be related to exhibitionism. It means asking other people to witness the person’s sexual degradation.

As with all sexual activities, some people also have sexual fantasies about humiliation, while others actually accept it as a lifestyle. Sexual fantasies of humiliation are very common, but for most people, they remain a fantasy. 

Some couples don’t like to be seen doing that in public or on a video for home use, no matter how erotic the idea may be. Others explore humiliation with partners, and many use online humiliation (where the involved use the internet chat, email, websites, etc.) as a compromise between exhibitionism and reality on the one hand, and safety and anonymity on the other.

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Humiliation in the Bedroom

People with sexual fantasies about humiliation often search for that kind of content on the internet to watch and enjoy, knowing that online content is just a theater and not a real humiliation event. There are thousands of people who search for porn websites to watch those videos and spice up their sexual life.

When both partners’ desire for erotic humiliation in the bedroom is on the roof level, they can start with the humiliation play. Starting with verbal as well as physical disgrace is an excellent intro, but sexual humiliation is the best part for most couples. They can choose between mild and hardcore erotic and sexual bedroom activities.

A combination of verbal belittlement and sexual activities opens the doors toward the most dominant humiliation factor. Among the most preferred sex desire-boosting humiliation activities are: 

  • Slapping your partner on the rear or in their face
  • Pulling your partner’s hair with a great dosage of erotic
  • Ejaculating on the body, mouth, or face 
  • Pushing your partner to perform oral sex without getting licked or fucked in return
  • Physical punishment, including whipping or spanking, when the obedient partner is “naughty”
  • Torture of the genitals or nipples

Conclusion

Some couples like humiliation play in their bedroom, but it isn’t an activity suitable for everyone. Something that works for some couples doesn’t mean that the same thing will do the job for others. However, since it happens as part of a particular moment and is not a constant routine, the brain recognizes it as a play. It means that the games don’t leave any mark on the human psyche. Do what makes you happy, but be sure to play safe.

Author

  • Robert Thomas

    Robert Thomas is a sexologist, researcher, and writer who loves to explore and investigate everything that is related to bedroom action. He strives to improve couples' sex life by challenging the advice given in research papers, books, magazines, and on the internet in general. Robert loves to write about sex, BDSM, as well as tips & tricks on how couples can introduce new sex toys to their relationship. He has been proudly featured in Healthline, Bustle, Cosmopolitan, Self, AskMen, MelMagazine, Kinkly, Jack&Jill Adult, and in many other publications. Learn more. LinkedIn

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