Best Prostate Massager | Your Ultimate Guide

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My roundup of the best prostate massagers will tell you everything you need to know before diving into the world of prostate play. I’ve gathered the information on the best of these sex toys and the best ways to use them. I’ve also reviewed the top five prostate massagers for your convenience.

Narrowing it down to the best was a challenge, but the top prostate massager is the Lelo Loki Wave.

There comes a time in a man’s life when he becomes comfortable enough to branch out sexually. There’s a lot of stigma about—to put this frankly—putting things in your butt. But once you break through the stigma and decide to try it, I don’t think you’ll ever want to go back.

The market is flooded with butt plugs and prostate toys, but the LELO LOKI Wave entranced me like no other. It beckoned, and I’ve never looked back.

But that’s enough about me. It’s time to hit the facts about why prostate massagers are a sex toy every man should have and how to use them best.

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Quick Rank Overview: Top 5 Prostate Massagers

If you’re eager to learn about the best prostate massagers out there, check these out:

    • Winner of the best prostate massager: LELO LOKI Wave.
    • First runner-up: Aneros VICE 2.
    • Second runner-up: LELO HUGO.
    • Best bulbous butt plug: Aneros Helix Syn Trident.
    • Best ergonomic erogenous expert: LELO BILLY 2.Butt Plug and Prostate Massager: The Difference

Let’s get this out of the way first—before I tell you the how-to’s of prostate stimulation, I’ll differentiate the toys.

When you think anal play, the word “butt plug” probably comes to mind. They can be small, like those hard plastic or stainless steel bullet types, or they can be large and mighty like the Aneros Progasm.

The Aneros Progasm is a lot like some prostate massagers, except it doesn’t vibrate. And that’s the key difference here—prostate massagers vibrate, and most butt plugs don’t.

Small, vibrating butt plugs will bring you pleasure, but likely won’t hit on your prostate. Meanwhile, butt plug beasts like the Aneros Progasm will hit the prostate, but you have to do the work yourself. You move it; you bring yourself to orgasm.

Meanwhile, a vibrating prostate massager is designed for use in what’s sometimes called “prostate milking.” You may also hear the term “prostate massage,” which is more in line with prostate massagers.

I’m going to dive into this area now and tell you all you need to know. But first, if you’re new to the prostate stimulation side of sex, there may be one question on your mind.

What Is the Prostate?

You’ve probably heard of the G-spot—an impossible to find, ultra-sensitive spot inside the vagina that drives women crazy when you touch it.

Well, let’s swap over to men, and you have the P-spot. An often neglected spot up your butt that can bring unimaginable pleasure.

The prostate is a small gland that weighs around an ounce. It’s about the size of a walnut.

This gland has a job, though. It’s not just there to be pleasured. It secretes one of the fluids in semen—prostate fluid. Muscles in your prostate gland also help with forcefully propelling seminal fluid during ejaculation.

As well as having this function, the prostate contains quite a few nerves. The nerves in the prostate help with erectile function, and they’re incredibly sensitive.

So, naturally, this is a pleasure spot for men—the P-spot. And you deserve vibrating prostate stimulation.


How Do You Find Your Prostate?

It starts with a finger in the butt.

Now, you need to relax. If you’re stressed, your muscles will tense, and this won’t be a pleasant experience.

I understand it’s hard to relax, especially the first time. But if you can’t relax for a finger, how can you relax using a prostate toy? So light some candles, put on some music, lube up, and go.

Start slowly. Go little by little and make sure it’s comfortable throughout.

Feel around for a patch 2–4 inches inside the rectum that feels different from the surrounding areas. Some men know immediately when they’ve found it, but that’s not always the case.

It helps if you’re aroused during the process. The prostate increases in size when you’re aroused, so it should be easier to find it. The prostate has to secrete those fluids present in semen, so naturally, it’ll be bigger.

Once you’re sure you’ve found it, you’ll suddenly feel like you have to urinate. This is normal, don’t worry—the prostate is right by the bladder. You don’t actually need to go.

You may not feel pleasure at first. In fact, some men find it unpleasant with it being too sensitive to touch. But as you experiment with massaging the area, vibrating your finger against it, you should start enjoying yourself.

What If I Can’t Find It?

Don’t worry if you can’t find your prostate. Your fingers may not be long enough, or maybe yours is higher than average. Try curling your finger and see if that helps.

If not, ask your partner to get involved. A partner will be able to see what’s going on from the outside, effectively getting in deeper. The angle of access also helps!

If you’re going solo and have no partner, here’s where you could invest in a starter sex toy. A great prostate vibrator should find it, and when it does, you’ll know, whether you’re jolted into intense pleasure or intense discomfort at the sudden sensations from this prostate stimulator.

What to Do When You Find It

One: celebrate.

Two: stimulate.


The best way to do that is with a massager. A vibrating prostate massager will send even a beginner on his way to mind-blowing orgasms.

Getting ready for this next big vibrating step in self-pleasure may take some work, so I’m going to take you through the entire process in steps.

Step One: Preparation

  1. Clean: When dealing with the butt area, cleanliness and comfort are key. If you have any hair around the area, consider removing it. Tugging on those little hairs hurts, trust me. However, if you’d rather not remove them, the lube should lessen the tug.
  2. Bathroom: Now you’ve made the decision about the hair, it’s time for a trip to the bathroom. Try and go about an hour before your playtime.
  3. Shower: Take a shower to relax and get the area extra clean. Make sure you get the whole area around the anus sparkling, and as much as you can inside, too.

Step Two: Arousal

Time to get out of the shower and into the bedroom, or if your prostate massager is waterproof, you might like to get comfortable where you are. Hot water does wonders for relaxation, and who doesn’t have the fantasy of the perfect shower sex? The cascading warmth is great for relaxing muscles.

Regardless of whether you stayed or even started in the shower, arousal is an important part of the process. Remember how I mentioned the prostate would swell when you’re aroused?

So, delve into your deepest fantasies or put your partner to work. Soon you can begin.

Step Three: Tools

This is the part where you get your vibrating prostate massager ready. Make sure the lube is nearby, and consider putting a towel down. Lubricant can be messy, and I, for one, don’t like destroying my bedsheets!

Once you get more skilled with both the lube and the sex toy, you can eliminate the towel from your play.

Step Four: Lubrication

You’ll need lube everywhere, especially for your first time. You need it on the toy, on your fingers, and inside your rectum. The inside of the anus isn’t like the vagina—it doesn’t lubricate naturally during sex.

Use your finger to get the inside of your butt lubed up and ready. You don’t have to put it in far, but some coverage is needed. Your vibrating prostate toy will thank you for it.

Step Five: Stimulation

It’s time to start the vibrating prostate play. A pro-player can dive straight in with the massager, but even the experienced among us should ease in.

Start with a finger to loosen yourself up. If you can reach your prostate, consider stimulation. Give it a massage to help keep up with your arousal. Call it foreplay—you don’t dive straight into penetrative sex, so treat it like that.

When you feel relaxed, ready, and open, then you can introduce the toy. Insert the massager slowly, and when it’s in, let it go if you can. Some of the best vibrating prostate massagers stay in without your intervention.

Step Six: Satisfaction

Now it’s in, get it humming, whether it be by a button on the massager or on a remote. Now you can leave it alone, lay back, and wait.

The best prostate-induced orgasms involve not touching your penis. This seems weird since your penis is a big part of sex, but trust me on this. Instead, why not touch some of your other erogenous zones, such as the nipples? Or, you can pleasure your partner.

Reaching climax through prostate play may take longer than you’re used to, but that’s okay. You get to revel in the sensations for longer or pay attention to your partner, so you’re both on cloud nine.

Alternatively, just sit back and relax with some porn, sensual music, or just your imagination. Sooner or later, your vibrating massager will get you to climax. And it may feel like the best sex you’ve ever had.

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Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)

Since this is likely new territory for a lot of you, I couldn’t let you go on without addressing your concerns.

Can I Stimulate My Prostate Without Toys?

Of course, you can. Your fingers work just as well as a vibrating sex toy—but I really recommend you use a prostate massager. Eventually, you’re going to tire yourself out, and it’s not fun to bend that way for too long.

Alternatively, you don’t want all the focus to be on you if you’re with a partner. It’s no fun to wait hours for someone to pleasure themselves. A prostate massager will free up your hands to give the other party a good time.

If you’re not comfortable with using toys yet, you could always start with your fingers and graduate to a prostate toy.

But ultimately, for the best prostate orgasm, you want the best prostate massager you can get your hands on.

What Kind of Lube Should I Use?

There are three main types of lubes: water, oil, and silicone. And I can’t definitely tell you which one to use—but your toy might!

Some sex toys will have special requirements for what kind of lube you should use. Others will provide you with some to get started. Read your instruction manual carefully before diving in.

However, I’m willing to share my insight.

One thing I like to use as lube is coconut oil. It’s slippery and natural, and if you have it on your hands, good luck keeping hold of the jar. Coconut oil isn’t wholly safe for vaginal use, and it’s not compatible with condoms, but for playing with your prostate massager, you should be safe.

Oil-based lube is longer-lasting than water-based lube. Silicone lube lasts longer, too. However, it’s not the best idea to use silicone-based lube with silicone sex toys. And many of the best prostate massagers are made of silicone.

It’s not definite, but silicone-based lube may make silicone-material prostate massagers break down faster. Nobody wants to feel that!

Can I Stimulate My Prostate From the Outside?

If going inside isn’t your thing yet, you can still do it from the outside, by hand, or with sex toys.

Your key to pleasure is the perineum—the area between the scrotum and the anus. If you target it correctly, you can get at the prostate, too.

Try to stay away from the area closer to the penis. Keep tight to the anus and branch outwards, looking for a softer, more tender area along the perineum. Once you find it, start massaging it gently with your fingers to try and stimulate it.

You could use the prostate massager on this area if you want a more even pattern. Hold the tip to the area or lay it across it. But be warned: with or without a toy, many men don’t find as much pleasure in external stimulation.

Do Women Have Prostates?

Women don’t have prostates. The prostate is for semen-related functions, which sadly means women miss out.

However, you could always try hunting for the G-spot in the vagina. I hear that really gets the blood pumping. Think of it as a matching set: the G-spot and the P-spot. You could get yourselves a matching set of sex toys and have fun.

Is There a Material Best for Prostate Massagers?

The best material is whatever feels good to you, but all the ones I reviewed are made of silicone. That’s medical-grade silicone, so you know it’s safe for your body. It’s also soft and velvety, so it’s nice to touch, whether it’s inside you or not. Stainless steel and plastic are common in prostate toys, but not as the main ingredient.

For me, silicone is best for any toy that vibrates. If it doesn’t vibrate, rock that plastic or steel. But the silicone is what should feel the softest buzzing around inside you for hours on end.

How Do You Clean Them and How Often?

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  • After each use: For the best sanitation practices, you should be cleaning your toys after every use. Give them a good soak—if waterproof and a thorough rinse. Avoid submerging any toys that aren’t waterproof.
  • Soap and water: Some prostate massagers will come with cleaning instructions. But for most, soap and hot water will do. Go with the hottest water you can stand and a good soap, then get ready to wash.
  • Avoid corrosive sponges: While washing, don’t attack the toy with a corrosive sponge. You don’t want to ruin the coating, so a gentle cloth will do.
  • No residue inside: Oh, and make sure you don’t leave behind any residue. You really don’t want soap up there; that’s no fun. You never know if the ingredients in the soap are good for your insides.
  • Air dry: When done, leave the toy to drip and air dry. Using a rough towel might irritate it, and a soft one isn’t much better. You also don’t want to leave any towel lint or fluff behind—I swear half of my showers are spent scrubbing towel residue off my skin.

Review of the Top Five Prostate Massagers

Lelo Loki Wave — Winner

Once upon a time, I tried the LELO LOKI. It did me well, but then the LOKI Wave beckoned.

When I say the LELO LOKI Wave beckoned, I mean it very literally. It’s the first prostate massager to offer this motion, a “come hither” waggle. It sways gently back and forth, which not only draws you in but sends you through the roof with pleasure.

Note that if the come-hither action isn’t your thing, you can turn it off and just focus on normal vibrations.

The motion is designed to feel like a finger curling back and forth against the prostate. This is a motion you’ll be used to if you started with digits and graduated to toys.

Along with this motion, you get 10 modes of stimulation with adjustable power. This is inside and out. The anal plug and perineum massager components both vibrate for dual pleasure. This targets your prostate internally and externally.

You won’t just feel these vibrations around your butt, but right into your abdomen. It’s one of those sex toys that’s really intense. Couple that with the finger-wiggle-like motion and large bulb size, and you may pass out with pleasure.

Oh, and one more thing! This toy is waterproof, so you can take the fun from the bedroom to a beautiful waterfall. At least, that’s what this level of pleasure will make your shower feel like. It practically transports you to another dimension.

Every guy needs the LOKI Wave in their life. Trust me on this. But if it’s not your thing, there are plenty of other toys in the proverbial sea. (And some not in the sea—they aren’t all waterproof)


  • Waggling motion for extra pleasure.
  • Perineum massager.
  • Waterproof.
  • Intense vibrations that radiate throughout your body.
  • Large size for guys who like a challenge.


  • It may be tricky to insert, even for the most experienced.

Aneros Vice 2 — First Runner-Up

If you want a sex toy with some kink, this is the one you should go for. This product has a bulbous design for several pops of pleasure as it goes in and fills you up. That doesn’t mean it’ll hurt, but it’ll feel bulky in all the right ways.

Each bulb popping into place is a sensation in itself before you get started. If you’re used to something slimmer, it takes some getting used to, but by the second or third time, you’ll be hooked.

This vibrator has a whopping 18 vibration modes, which is an impressive array. By the time you get tired of the 18th, you can go back to square one, and it’ll feel like a new pattern.

It also has four speeds. These will give you 72 hands-free sensory experiences. Try not to try them all out in one go!

For convenience, you can switch between these modes with a remote control. It’s great for solo play, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be used in a couple.

The first time you use the massager, you’ll probably be wiped out. It’ll be tricky to remove without catching your breath or getting some help. That’s where the partner comes in… and bonus points if it’s your partner that used it to pleasure you.

This is a really fantastic massager. Look at it this way: the Aneros VICE was award-winning in itself. Imagine how good the follow-up must be if the original could win prizes.


  • 72 pleasurable sensations.
  • Remote control.
  • From an award-winning range.
  • The bulbous shape adds to the overall pleasure.


  • Takes some getting used to because of the bulk.

Lelo Hugo — Second Runner-Up

If you like a massager with a remote control, the LELO HUGO has you covered in that department. It’s powered by two motors in the base and is ready for use with hands-free pleasure.

This is a sleek model that gets bigger from base to tip, letting it stay inside you while giving you a feeling of fullness. It can take some getting used to, but once it’s in, you’ll wish it was a permanent fixture in no time.

Perhaps you can keep it in full-time, though. It’s waterproof, so you can take things from the bedroom to the bath or shower, but I think you should keep it limited to those spots. A full-time prostate massager? You’d never get anything done again. Plus, it needs time to recharge, just like you do.

This is a great massager for solo play. The remote function makes it easy for you to control the 12 different intensities of vibrations, which are across six distinct vibration patterns.

Also, the remote only takes one hand, so you can use the other to please a partner, yourself, or surf through porn.

Alternatively, you could hand the remote to a partner, keep the toy in, and let it be activated unexpectedly. This could add a level of kink to your relationship, if that’s what you’re into.


  • Hands-free pleasure.
  • 72 different sensations to experiment with.
  • Waterproof for shower play.
  • Medium-sized so it’s not too big for a beginner.
  • Presented in a satin case.


  • The remote isn’t waterproof—if you pleasure your prostate in the shower, you need to pick one setting and stick to it.

Aneros Helix Syn Trident — Best Bulbous Butt Plug

Aneros seems to have a thing for bulbous butt plugs. The Aneros Helix Syn Trident is another hands-free prostate massager. It has bulbs all along it, so you get an interesting sensation before you even switch it on.

The head is the largest part, so your prostate takes the brunt of the pressure and pleasure. And each bulbous bump is placed to target all your hidden erogenous zones on the way up to the main event.

According to the manufacturer, the original Helix Syn became the most popular prostate massager of its kind in the world, so imagine what this later model must promise.

One thing it does promise is that the soft-touch velvet silicone is the most luxuriant yet. A soft material is nothing but safe for such a sensitive spot, and comfortable, too.

The massager’s smaller side adds further comfort. It’s only 4 inches long, but that makes it more comfortable. It still manages to hit all the right spots.


  • Bulbous design for extra pleasure.
  • Hands-free so you can explore other erogenous zones.
  • Softest, most velvet-like medical grade silicone of any prostate massager yet.
  • Vibrations target four areas of pleasure.


  • It can be difficult to remove.

Lelo Billy 2 — Best Ergonomic Erogenous Expert

The LELO BILLY 2 may be last on my list, but it’s still one of the best prostate massagers you’ll find. It’s one of those toys you can use anywhere, including the bath or shower, as it’s completely waterproof.

This ergonomic toy is molded to fit your body, making it comfortable to insert. This is vital—pain when trying to achieve pleasure is certainly one of my big turn-offs. The ergonomic design eliminates all fear with this one, even before using it.

This toy is powerful, with eight vibration modes. It’ll give you pleasure through a satisfying murmur or a knee-weakening pulse. It also stays quiet throughout, so the sound won’t take you out of the moment or disturb any prying ears.

I don’t think you’ll find a more luxurious prostate toy than this. For enhanced pleasure, LELO even provides a moisturizing lubricant to use with the toy.

There are numerous testimonies from both men and women about LELO’s products, and here’s mine: it’s tasteful, velvety, and you can feel it’s vibrations all the way into your abdomen.

Also, it works great when used by couples. A partner to the player can operate the controls more easily since they’re hard to see during solo play. And what’s sexier than your partner helping give you pleasure?


  • Silky smooth.
  • Classy presentation when it arrives.
  • Ergonomic design.
  • Great for couples.
  • Detailed instruction manual.
  • Two-hour charge, four-hour play.


  • Controls may be difficult to use during solo play.


By now, you should be an expert in the art of prostate massaging and ready to give yourself the ultimate pleasure.

I still think the LELO LOKI Wave is the best massager. If if you don’t feel it’s best-suited for you and your needs, there are still five other unique and wonderful toys to choose from. But that “come hither” motion, combined with numerous vibration patterns and hands-free play… for me, you can’t beat it.

Check out our DIY Homemade Prostate Massagers Article, if you are curious about making your own. 


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