Quick links: Vaginal Anatomy | Clitoris Vs. G-spot | How To Prepare | Oral Sex Techniques
There are a lot of guides out there on how to eat pussy.
The art of cunnilingus has been mythicized throughout the years. As if it were some unattainable achievement, reachable only to the greatest of mons pubis-to-clitoris explorers.
This is mostly due to miseducation of the all-things vagina. But, there is also a lack of motivation to learn anything about it post-school. This is really the only obstacle that stands in the way of those looking to give their ladies some sizzling orgasms.
Truth be told, there are two things you need to know before diving into pussy eating.
So fear not, giving oral sex is mostly about being able to pay attention to exactly what your partner is into.
But, let’s take things slow.
Sex Ed: The Vagina Anatomy
Without getting too scientific about it, there are some things you must know about a pussy before being able to eat one out properly.
Think of the vagina like papaya.
Right at the very top, before the fleshy inside meets the seeds, there is a little nub. In the vagina, this is the protective hood known as a clitoral hood.
Its only function is to protect the clit from getting injured. In that way, it works similarly to a man’s foreskin.
“The prepuce or foreskin is a hoodlike fold of skin that covers the glans.”
by Richard S. Snell; Lippincott Williams & Wilkins, 2008
from Clinical Anatomy by Regions
Under the hood is where the magical clitoris lies. It’s a tiny, fleshy nub that’s jam-packed with nerve endings – up to 15,000 of them.
“The clitoris is a small mass of erectile tissue that responds to sexual stimulation.”
by Valerie C Scanlon, Tina Sanders; F. A. Davis Company, 2014
from Essentials of Anatomy and Physiology
In comparison, Getroman.com suggests that penises only have 4,000 nerve endings. Evidently, it’s small but packs quite the punch if used right.
Think of it the same way you would about a dick shaft – you need to rub it to stimulate it.
The Bits and Pieces that Make a Difference
Next on the papaya anatomy, we have the outer rim of the flesh, which extends into the big seedy area.
For women, this would be the equivalent of the labia majora and labia minora. These run outside the rim of the pussy. While they can be sensitive, they won’t provide the same pleasure that clitoral stimulation does.
“The labia minora (minor lips) are two folds of skin lying inside the labia majora.”
by Jerrold S. Greenberg, Clint E. Bruess, Sarah C. Conklin; Jones and Bartlett Publishers, 2007
from Exploring the Dimensions of Human Sexuality
Most men who are eating pussy for the first time tend to place their focus here, thinking it’s the clit.
Under the clitoral hood is the tiny urethral opening. There’s nothing to see here, just a pee hole. Unless you’re into golden showers.
No porn video will mention this outright, but the actual opening is located way more south than expected.
In fact, it’s so close to the butt that guys can have a hard time locating it the first time.
Either way, it’s technically incorrect to say you’re eating out her vagina since it’s on the inside. Still, this is a great place for a tongue, finger, toy, or anything else you agree to play with.
That, in a nutshell, is the anatomy of a vagina and a great introduction to learning how to pleasure your partner.
Eating Pussy: The G-Spot
One other misconception about pussy is the G-spot. Or more specifically, its location.
While this may be stating the obvious, there’s a difference between the clitoris and the G-spot. They are not the same thing, but they do overlap.
SEX TIP: The G-spot is located on the interior wall of the vagina. It differs from one woman to another. But it can typically be found 2-3 inches inside the wall. Whenever you try to stimulate it, you’re also aiming at finding her clit.
by Robert Thomas
from Sextopedia
Whether by fingers or a toy, you’ll need some practice finding the right spot in the wall of crevices, ridges, and valleys. Of course, pleasure comes with practice.
So maybe don’t go digging for gold too long, or sex and pleasure can easily go sour.
The Pussy Eating Preparation Guide
Before giving oral sex, remember that it will take some time and preparation. Most women don’t appreciate the super-sensitive part of their body being overstimulated before they can even lay down.
Focusing on your partner’s pleasure means taking some time to see what makes them tick.
Oral Sex Begins from the Top
Vaginas are self-cleaning and self-lubricating organs, which means they produce wetness naturally. You can get her to produce that lubrication for some sexy times by exploring her body first.
Part of what makes the vast majority of women get off is the process of preparation before any penetration.
This is where you can use your fingers, tongue, and mouth to work wonders.
Focus on erogenous zones – lick the neck, kiss the thighs, use your tongue on her nipples, squeeze her ass – anything that can get her going.
“In addition to the genital areas, erogenous zones can include the breasts and nipples, the neck, the inner thighs, and the mouth, although this varies from one person to another.”
by Nina G. Jablonski; University of California Press, 2013
from Skin: A Natural History
A porno will likely be a show and tell of a dip and drip. But, that’s a bad idea in reality since it takes some time before mouth-to-pussy can happen.
The lower you go, the more fingers you need to introduce and the more licking you need to incorporate. This is because your tongue is the main tool in your arsenal of oral pleasuring.
Play with her panties, switch things up by going from the inner thighs up to her belly, put a finger on her underwear to tease the clitoris, etc.
Basically, tease your partner’s body until it’s time for the main course – utensils excluded, of course.
Oral Sex: What to Avoid
Every girl is different, so these suggested don’ts may differ from person to person.
However, there are some sure-fire ways to never give an orgasm. These are listed below.
#1 Alphabet Lining
This is a very popular ‘technique’ out there, but try to avoid spelling anything on her lady pond.
#2 Food
Though it can be fun, food is more of a mess causer so it’s best to avoid it during sex, oral or otherwise. Well, unless you’re into yeast infections.
#3 Porn
If you’re trying to imitate what’s happening in a fake scenario featuring actors that are fake moaning, you’re going to have a bad time. Porn can be a learning curve to get you going, but it’s far from the real-deal action.
#4 Penetration
You’re not having sex, you want to get her off with just your tongue. Vaginal penetration won’t make things more pleasurable if you haven’t stimulated the other parts yet (mainly the clit).
Oral Sex Techniques: Lick, Tease, & Then Some…
There’s no one-size-fits-all oral sex technique that feels amazing for women everywhere. However, you can learn by reading some good advice from oral sex experts.
Mainly, that clitoral stimulation for most women comes when the other person can pay attention to what makes her feel best.
Pay attention to facial expressions, and see how your partner reacts to a certain technique. Remember how you flick your tongue when licking her pussy, introduce fingers to check if your girl is into it, etc.
There are two specific techniques to take note of.
Disclaimer – these aren’t the techniques’ official names.
The Flat Tongue Express
This one is pretty self-explanatory. The goal is to flatten your tongue and make it like a pancake.
Make sure to have plenty of saliva so that you add that extra bit of lube to the wetness. Place your mouth at the bottom of her pussy and start moving upwards.
Remember to move with your head, not with your tongue. Keep it flat and relaxed so that the hype comes from the wetness and softness of the tongue. This way you’re also covering more ground.
Start at the base (or the butt) and move upwards right to the clitoris.
More pressure doesn’t equal more stimulation. The goal is to start with a slow tease and build up the tension until it blossoms into a beautiful orgasm.
Listen to your partner – check for body cues if the girl is satisfied, lick closer to the clit, or up the speed if you hear her telling you to do so.
The Horizontal Flick
You have probably witnessed guys make that weird motion with their tongue, rapidly flicking it back and forth. Joke aside, these men actually may be onto something.
Before eating pussy, make an ‘O’ face. Stick out your tongue and think about drawing horizontal lines from left to right. Now do that multiple times at a rapid pace.
There you have the so-called horizontal flick. Something to take note of is to barely lick the clit.
This is not only an excellent way to tease but a very fast way to reach an orgasm because the gentle motion can very quickly turn into a ravenous need to get off.
The Finger-Friendly Toss
This technique can be combined with either of the above two since it requires using a finger as additional stimulation.
While eating pussy, slowly incorporate a couple of fingers. You can focus on her clit alone, but you can also gently lower them down into the vaginal opening. Proceed at her pace, and with only as many fingers as she wants.
With your fingers inside, aim for the G-spot for the ultimate orgasm.
Alternatively, if she’s a fan of hitting the backdoor, knock yourself out – just make sure to add some lube!
The Big Suck
This technique differs from the rest. It mainly comes down to how well your partner can handle pressure on their clit over an extended period of time. However, this is a wonderful way to get her to orgasm pretty quickly – if you get it down.
Keep an eye on your partner and how well they respond to the movements. Those thousands of nerve endings make things extremely sensitive. So, going too hard can lead to some bruising and a very unpleasant experience.
If you’re sporting a dick, then you know the pain overstimulation can cause, so try to keep that in mind when giving oral.
Suck at her own pace and instructions, and don’t feel bad when you lose your way – communication is key.
The Pause
Oral sex is all about keeping that build-up going until it’s time for an orgasm. If you really want to tease her to no end, then aim to please her by occasionally pausing.
This is simultaneously a fun opportunity to incorporate some light BDSM or roleplaying while having a fuck.
This is a fantastic way to control your partner and the satisfaction they receive over the course of your pussy eating adventure.
Instead of giving her constant stimulation, stop to kiss her, play with her nipples, and (maybe) indulge in a little ass play. Also, don’t be shy to use some props or please yourself if need be.
Final Words
If there’s anything to note when playing the wet harmonica, it’s to pay attention and remain consistent.
Penis-holders, beware, for ‘keep going’ does not mean ‘go fast‘, and ‘that feels good‘ does not mean ‘stop for an interlude‘.
The only way to get your girl to orgasm from eating pussy is to listen to what she likes. In other words, add a lot more tongue to it, and never be too rough on the delicate and aroused nub.
That’s the way to achieve full-blown cliteracy.
