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If there’s one technique in oral sex that you find plastered across every porn site known to man, it’s deep throat. There are a ton of deep-throating videos out there that may prove intimidating for any woman who wants to try her hand or mouth at it.
A good blow job doesn’t have to include deep throating, but it’s a nice bonus if it does. It’s all about simulating what a pussy feels like, except with a lot more tongue and maneuverability.
While it’s difficult to master deep-throating right away, as with most things sex-related, practice makes perfect.
Start with Regular Oral Sex
There’s no need to be an expert on the subject, meaning oral sex and especially deepthroat. But getting accustomed to your partner’s penis is vital before you take the whole thing into your mouth.
There are many techniques for giving regular blowjobs. So, obviously, there’s plenty to learn about getting a whole penis at the back of your throat.
Learning how to relax your throat muscles and control your breathing when giving head is how you should explore deep throating. According to Thrillist, this is the only way to ‘tricking’ your gag reflex and avoiding vomiting all over the place.
If your partner is on the hung side, take it in inch by inch – quite literally, to balance your pharyngeal reflex.
Pharyngeal Reflex and Precautions
The first thing in understanding deep throating is that it can be a one-way ticket to the ER if not done right. Because of how our esophagus is structured, it’s easy to rupture your airway if you keep the penis head inside for too long.
“The pharyngeal (gag) reflex is a rapid and intense contraction of the pharyngeal muscles.”
by Gerard J. Tortora, Bryan H. Derrickson; Wiley, 2018
from Principles of Anatomy and Physiology
A simple Google search shows some pretty frightening results on deep throat-induced injuries.
Approach Deep Throating with Care
While this scenario may be a far cry from everyday reality, other injuries can occur when sucking cock. Such are throat bruising, rawness, irritation, and vomiting.
Not to mention that sensitive gag reflexes will always make things more difficult. But even without one, be cautious when you start deep-throating for the first time.
The Health Aspect
Oral sex is one of the most common ways to spread sexually transmitted infections (STIs). That’s why it’s important to use protection when having sex with your partner.
“Unprotected oral sex can transmit sexually transmitted infections.”
by Linda Lewis Alexander, Judith H. LaRosa, et. al. Jones & Bartlett Learning, 2020
from New Dimensions in Women’s Health
Not having to worry about contracting STIs will make it a better overall experience for both of you.
Learn How to Deep Throat by Practicing
The best way to start practicing deep-throating is by purchasing a dildo. Put the dildo in your mouth and start pushing it down your throat slowly to learn when and if you gag. If you can’t take more than a few inches, form a “stop-ring” on the dildo, so you’d know where your limits are.
As you practice, you will learn to improve the timing of your breathing and control your gag reflex. There’s no quick tutorial on this – just stay patient and keep practicing, good things cum to those who wait.
Deep Throating Tips for Beginners
You’ve finally gotten to the stage where you can deep-throat your man’s big dick. This is where paying attention to the most important do’s and don’ts can make or break an immersive deep-throating experience.
Don’t Take in the Whole Thing
While men tend to be put in the ‘hump and dump‘ sex category, taking time to tease will actually make that deep-throating all the more worthwhile.
The build-up to the deep throat will actually make it more likely for him to explode quicker, which will potentially save you from a lot of gagging. There are a couple of ways to do this and it all depends on what your man finds super hot.
SEX TIP: That can be licking the shaft, kissing the penis head, running your tongue up and down his penis, or all of the above. As you move the cock deeper into your mouth, it builds up a lot of pressure and tension. Naturally, this will lead to a great finish.
By Robert Thomas
from Sextopedia
The Head Matters
Thanos said it best, ‘you should have gone for the head’.
Deep-throating is all about pleasuring the tip. It’s where the most nerve endings are in the penis. It’s also why men prefer going deeper with a blow job – to tickle their pickle with enough pressure to generate a wave of pleasure.
Consider the Visual Impact
Most men are visual creatures, so giving him some eye candy while on your knees can also help. Try to not break eye contact unless necessary.
You will know your partner is having a good time if he keeps trying to push his pelvis forward. It’s a telltale sign that your mouth is doing an excellent job at keeping him happy and entertained.
A Helping Hand
It may be called oral sex, but the process involves more than just swallowing the entire penis in one go.
For most beginners, having a hand to stop getting deep-throated from turning into a choking hazard is a pretty useful tool. It does more than avoid gagging.
Using hands can even prevent your mouth from tiring out too quickly. It also gives you ample time to breathe and mix a new sensation into the experience.
Don’t Forget the Lube
You can practice opening your mouth and throat all you want. But, if you’re not lubed up properly, it can result in a potential injury for your partner.
While using thick saliva can be a great way to avoid hitting your gag reflex too soon and give him some extra pleasure, practice adding lube to every deep throating session.
This is for two reasons.
Just avoid any numbing lubes!
Above All, Communicate
Most men are quiet during sex, which is why it’s sometimes difficult to gauge whether they’re into something or not. Having open communication during this whole ordeal is important for both of you. It will relieve you of anxieties and help your man orgasm.
Try not to recite Romeo and Juliet quotes at him when trying to find what floats his boat.
Finding the Right Position
Next on the ‘how to deep throat’ list is finding the right position to actually perform oral sex and breathe at the same time!
Your tongue may be able to do a lot of things. But, your esophagus may hurt if you’re too aggressive with pushing things at the back of your throat.
The Classic
When you think of a regular blowjob, you think of kneeling. This is the standard position that most women take when taking in a real penis – and it’s a classic for good reason.
If you’re a newbie, such a placement is the way to go for you. Before taking your partner to the back of your throat, let his penis slide onto your tongue, use your body to move forward, and swallow him whole.
Obviously, if he’s too tall or too short, go for the bed instead.
The Bed Gag
This is probably the second most common position that involves the woman being on top. Here, her body is angling downward when attempting to deep throat.
This is an excellent position for anyone wanting to take full control of the penis and their throat muscles.
Aim for a bed for the ultimate comfort, but any other object like a couch, mattress, or even the floor will work.
Remember to keep your throat relaxed and mouth wide open. This position lets you take in a lot more than usual – so be wary of any potential accidents that may occur.
The Plow
The Plow is doable for anyone who has a non-existent gag reflex.
Have your partner stand in front of you while you are kneeling or laying down. You can opt to be on your back while he’s on the edge of the bed. Open wide and have him pound his penis into your mouth at his own pace.
Obviously, a mouth is not intended to take dicks in. Therefore, always communicate how much you can take beforehand, especially considering your gag reflex.
Otherwise, this is a great way to pound both simulated pussy and throat at once.
The 69
Nothing says big deal deep throat quite like the 69. The premise is simple – you’re on top, he’s on the bottom.
“When couples orally stimulate one another simultaneously, the act is referred to as 69 (because their bodies in position resemble the numbers 6 and 9).”
by Jerrold S. Greenberg, Clint E. Bruess, Sarah C. Conklin; Jones and Bartlett Publishers, 2007
from Exploring the Dimensions of Human Sexuality
First-timers should exercise caution before adding these numbers up and first find a solution for any potential choking accidents.
In translation: don’t do it if you can’t take it.
It’s a pretty good position for your partner if he wants to experience a deep dive into your throat. If you’re feeling like you’re pushing your limits, try to sigh a quiet ‘ahhh‘ to open up your throat further.
Before You Go…
There are only three things to remember to successfully deep-throat your man. Remember to breathe, allow him to tell you what he wants, and use plenty of spit (or lube). Of course, before you get down and dirty, you need to ensure your mutual sexual health, mainly by doing regular STD laboratory tests.
