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One thing I love the most about the world of dildos is that the banging possibilities are endless.
Just when you think you’ve seen it all, the double-ended dildo enters the chatroom. So what’s this toy all about?
Here’s a summary of everything you need to know.
Key Takeaways
- Anyone can use a double-ended dildo.
- Best used for: vagina to vagina, vagina to anal, vagina to oral, anal to anal, oral to oral, and oral to anal.
- Best positions: doggy-style, faceoff, and back facing up.
- Worst position: standing up.
This article is co-written by Sexologist Robert Thomas.
What Are Double-Ended Dildos?
Also known as double dildos or double-sided dildos, these are the kinds of dildos that contain molded heads at either end for penetration.
In other words, a double-ended dildo is what you get when you join two dildos, with the heads facing opposite each other.
Tips on Using a Double-Ended Dildo
Double-ended dildos are some of my favorite dildos. As their name suggests, these toys guarantee double pleasure. Whether you intend to use it for solo play or with your partner, you can never run out of dildo fucking options.
After months of exploring different positions with my partner using a double-ended dildo, I decided to share some of my best and worst experiences.
1. Vagina to Vagina
Perfect for a lesbian couple… I found that a double dong can go into each partner’s vagina in different positions.
Here are some quick tips for vagina-to-vagina penetration with a double-ended dildo.
- Have your partner lay on their back on a flat surface and spread their legs
- Apply lube
- When ready, insert one end of the dildo into their vagina
- Insert the other end into your vagina and enjoy the playtime.
But that’s not the only option if you’re serious about the journey to orgasmville. There’s more.
- Have your partner bend on all fours, facing away from you
- Apply lube, and then insert the dildo into their vagina from behind (doggy style)
- Turn and face the other direction, apply the lube, and insert the other end of the dildo into your vagina
- Rock back and forth, your buttcheeks clapping against your partner’s
- For more stability, hold the dildo in the middle with your hand
2. Vagina to Anal
A double penetration dildo also allows you to take anal and vaginal penetration to a whole new level. The best thing about vagina to anal penetration using a double-ended dildo is that it works for both homosexual and heterosexual partners.
“A dildo should not enter the vagina after going into the anus or vice versa unless it has been carefully washed or covered with a condom.”
by Helen Varney, Jan M. Kriebs, Carolyn L. Gegor; Jones and Bartlett Pub., 2004
from Varney’s Midwifery
This is actually one of my favorite positions with my partner. When done right, one end of the dildo hits his P-spot while the other camps at my G-spot, leading to powerful, bedsheet-biting orgasms.
“Women generally enjoy G-spot stimulation more if they are already well aroused when it begins, and most women will enjoy it as an addition to stimulation of the clitoris.”
by Paul Byerly; Karis Publishing, Incorporated, 2004
from The Generous Husband
Here’s how it works.
- Have your partner lay on their back, facing you
- Apply lube around their anus and the dildo’s tip
- Smoothly massage their anus with one end of the dildo until when they’re ready for penetration
- When ready, insert the toy slowly and gently, rocking back and forth, allowing the anal muscles to relax
- Insert the other end of the dildo into your vagina, keeping the opposite end in your partner’s butthole
- Begin rocking back and forth until YOU CUM!
3. Vagina to Oral
There are many different ways to enjoy vagina-to-oral double dildo sex. You can either perform vagina to oral with your partner or solo.
With your partner:
- Lay on your back on a flat surface
- Spread your legs and when ready, apply lube, and then insert one end of the dildo into your pussy
- Have your partner lean forward and suck the other end of the dildo (blowjob) while thrusting the other end in and out of your vagina with their hand
During solo play:
- Lay on your back on a flat surface
- Spread your legs and when ready, apply lube and insert one end of the dildo into your vagina
- Place your hands under your back and lift your torso, bringing the other end of the phallus closer to your mouth
- Suck the dildo while thrusting the other end in and out of your vagina
- Because this position requires a lot of energy and flexibility, it’s okay to take breaks in between
4. Anal to Anal
Performing anal to anal using a double-ended dong is pretty straightforward. I’ve tried this position numerous times with my partner, and we both love it. He loves it the most for obvious reasons; a man’s P-spot (prostate) is located somewhere inside the rectum.
“The prostate gland is situated just below the urinary bladder, where it surrounds the first part of the urethra.”
by Gillian Pocock, Christopher D. Richards, David A. Richards; Oxford University Press, 2018
from Human Physiology
Anal to anal penetration works like the vagina to vagina position we discussed earlier. Follow the same steps, but instead of inserting the phallus into your vagina, you’ll need to take the back door for the ultimate pleasure.
For best results, consider giving your partner a handjob during anal to anal penetration. You’ll thank me later.
But make no mistake, this position isn’t restricted to heterosexual couples only; homosexual couples can also travel to pleasureland via the anal-to-anal route.
Whether you are gay or straight doesn’t matter; your anus is the only ticket you’ll need for anal to anal play with your partner.
5. Oral to Oral
Oral to oral is probably the most precise way to use a double-sided dildo. Here’s all you need to do:
- Have your partner sit next to you, facing you
- Place one end of the two-way dildo in your mouth and the other end in your partner’s mouth
- Begin sucking gently and slowly
- For added pleasure, play with your partner’s vagina or penis as you suck the dong
The only thing I didn’t like about the oral-to-oral play was that the dildo tasted a little bit weird to me.
Probably so.
To add more flavor to oral play using a double-faced drilldo, I used the Strawberry Flavored Lube from Lovehoney. The company has quite a decent collection of flavored oral lubes that you can use throughout your body.
For example, if you’re not so much of a strawberry fan, you can try the cherry oral lube, tangerine peach, or even the birthday cake if you’re a cake person.
6. Oral to Anal
You can also perform oral to anal play with your partner using a double-ended dildo. To do this, follow these steps:
- Have your partner bend over on all fours, facing away from you
- Apply lube on their anus and one end of the dildo
- Gently massage their butthole and then insert the double dildo when ready
- Suck the other end of the toy while holding the midsection for more stability
- Use your hand to trust your partner’s anal walls as you suck the other end of the dildo
- If you can, use the other hand to massage your partner’s vagina or penis
- Feel free to use flavored lube for oral play
You can also repeat these steps with your partner lying on their back with their legs spread wide open.
Best Positions to Try Double-Sided Dildos
A two-headed dildo offers many possibilities if you want to try out different dildo sex positions solo or with your partner. Here are a few of my personal favorites.
1. Lie on Your Back
You can experience incredible orgasms using a double-ended dildo while lying on your back. For example, as mentioned earlier, you can have anal to anal, vagina to vagina, and vagina to anal in this position.
2. U Shape
U-shaped double-ended dildos are designed for double penetration; one end in the butt and the other in the vagina.
You can use a U-shaped dildo in different positions, such as:
- Laying on your side, raising your leg, and inserting the dildo into your anus and vagina at the same time
- Laying on your back, spreading your legs, and inserting the dildo into your anus and vagina at the same time
- Bending on all fours and inserting the toy into your anus and pussy at the same time
3. Doggy Style
If you like taking dick from the back, a double-ended dildo guarantees double pleasure. While bending on all fours, insert one end of the two-way dildo into your vagina and the other into your partner’s anus or vagina. Then, begin rocking back and forth gently.
The Tracey Cox Supersex Rabbit Ears Clitoral Vibrator works best for me because it’s small and does not take up so much space.
You don’t want a vibrator that fights for space with your dildo because it’s hard to choose which one to drop between the two, especially when they’ve both reported for duty. I also love the ‘rabbit ears’ design and how my clitoris fits perfectly between those ‘ears’.
4. The Face Off
The faceoff position allows you to enjoy oral to oral play with a double-ended phallus. You can also use this position for vagina to vagina, anal to vagina, and anal to anal positions. All you’ll need to do is have your partner lay on their back, facing you.
For oral to oral play, your partner inserts one end of the dildo in their mouth, facing you. You’ll then insert the other end into your mouth, facing your partner. Begin sucking gently while playing with each other’s genitals for extra stimulation.
Sex Positions That Won’t Work With Double Penetration Dildos
Now that you know what positions work with a double-ended dildo, let’s discuss what doesn’t, at least from my own experience. If any of these positions work for you, please feel free to share some tips in the comment section below this article.
1. Standing Up
While it’s not impossible to use a double-ended dildo while standing up, just as long as you have lube, this position can be extremely uncomfortable. And that comes from someone who’s pretty flexible regarding dildo sex positions.
One thing I didn’t like about this position is that even though I was able to achieve penetration, I got tired within a few seconds of leaning over, trying to dig my inner walls from below.
It almost feels like the position you’d be in when inserting a tampon while standing. That’s not the angle you’d hope to achieve orgasm from.
How to Choose a Double-Ended Dildo?
Most people don’t realize that although double-sided dildos have the same design, these toys aren’t necessarily the same. There are many other characteristics that set them apart from each other. These characteristics will determine just how much fun you’ll have using these toys.
Here’s what to look for when shopping for a double dick dildo.
Pick a Size, Texture & Material
Our in-house dildo survey, conducted between October 2021 and July 2022, found that 73% of 2468 respondents preferred dildos measuring between 6 and 7 inches. So if you fall into that category, you’ll have many different double-sided dildos to choose from.
However, you don’t have much choice when it comes to materials. This is because your safety comes first; you can’t compromise that.
If you’re unsure how to choose a safe dildo material, I discussed safe and unsafe dildo materials in this article.
Make Sure It’s Ergonomic
The term ‘ergonomic’ refers to something that’s designed to be easy to use and comfortable. And when it comes to sex toys, any slight discomfort is enough to ruin the fun.
Consider Your Budget
According to the Sextopedia survey we referenced earlier, affordable quality was the second-most important thing dildo users considered when shopping for these toys.
To put things into perspective, 16% of the 2468 participants said they considered a dildo’s price when shopping.
Consult With Your Partner if Want to Use Together
How you intend to use the dildo will also influence your purchase decision. Since two individuals can use a double-headed dildo simultaneously, you may want to consult the other party to find out what they need in such a toy.
Make Sure You or Your Partner Aren’t Allergic to Double-Sided Dildo Material
Some dildo materials are not necessarily unsafe but only unsuitable for that particular user. For this reason, it’s important to find out whether you or your partner are allergic to that specific dildo material before purchasing.
What’s the Best Double-Sided Dildo?
While there are so many different double-sided dildos on the market today, some are better than others.
Here are some notable ones.
Best for Couples: Jelly Double-ended Dildo 18 Inch
There are so many things my partner and I love about this monster dildo from Lovehoney.
Let’s begin with the length — 18 inches is more than enough for my boyfriend and me.
I must confess that I’m a little bit selfish, though; I usually take the larger share (13 inches), leaving him with the leftovers (5 inches), which is more than enough for anal play.
The 6-inch circumference also makes this toy the perfect size for anal and vaginal play.
But that’s not all; because this toy is flexible, I can make a ‘U-turn’ while riding down the pleasure boulevard. It’s one of my favorite toys when my partner isn’t home. It fulfills my wildest double penetration fantasies!
It’s worth noting that this toy is made with PVC plastic and contains latex. So if you’re allergic to latex, this might not be the best choice for you. Besides that, this toy is the closest to perfection you’ll ever be to double-ended dildos.
Best for Solo: BASICS Double-Ended Dildo 12 Inch
With a generous length of about 12 inches, this PVC dildo is great for solo play. And because it’s flexible, you can use one end in your anus and the other in your vagina simultaneously.
This two-faced phallus is also ideal for anal/vaginal to oral play (if you’re that flexible).
The bad boy has an insertable length of 10.5 inches, which is quite impressive given most people settle for 6 to 7 inches, as discovered in the Sextopedia dildo survey.
A 5-inch circumference isn’t bad at all. It’s actually great for both beginners and experts in the world of double penetration.
Most Realistic: Hoodlum Tapered Double Penetration Realistic Double-Ended Dildo
This 14-inch monster is the most realistic double-ended dildo I’ve ever come across. From the veiny shaft to the smooth tip, this dual dildo feels lifelike.
The best thing about it is that it’s designed for both beginners and advanced dildo users, which explains the 4.5-inch circumference.
Designed from PVC plastic, this realistic and flexible phallus is also latex and phthalate-free.
Read More | Best Double-Ended Dildos
Double-Ended Dildo Safety
Once again, let’s discuss safety. If you’ve been reading my blogs, you probably know that I’ll never get tired of emphasizing safety regardless of the kind of sex toy you choose.
Do I Have to Use Lube With Double-Ended Dildos?
Yes. You’ll need to use lube with a double-ended dildo. Using lube helps reduce friction and increase pleasure.
And since one end of this dildo mostly goes into the anus, you’ll need lube because this part of the body doesn’t lubricate itself naturally.
Do I Need to Use a Condom With Double-Ended Dildos?
You don’t necessarily need a condom when using this dildo, especially during solo play. However, if you intend to use it with someone whose health status you don’t know, it’s important that you use a condom.
This applies to any sex toy you’ll ever use with such a person. You don’t want to go from shopping for dildos online to Googling signs and symptoms of chlamydia all within a week.
Do I Need Strong Pelvic Floor Muscles to Use a Double-Ended Dildo?
Not necessarily. As mentioned earlier, your anus or vagina is your only ticket to a wild ride with a double-ended dildo.
When Shouldn’t You Use a Double-Ended Dildo?
This dildo doesn’t feel so good when standing or sitting (if it doesn’t have a suction cup). These two positions are quite uncomfortable, making it difficult for the dildo to penetrate.
Who Shouldn’t Use Double-Ended Dildos?
A double-ended dildo can be used by anyone, even without a partner. This also applies to users who don’t prefer anal sex; the double pleasure dildo is still great for vagina to vagina penetration.
Double-Sided Dildos FAQs
What’s His and Her Dildo?
The term ‘his and her dildo’ is used to describe a dildo that can be used by both males and females, such as a double-ended dildo.
Is a Double-Sided Vibrator the Same as a Double-Sided Dildo?
Yes and no. Here’s why.
A double-sided vibrator can stimulate the vagina and anus simultaneously through intense vibration. On the other hand, a double-sided dildo stimulates the vagina and anus through thrusting.
Can I Add More Toys When Using a Double-Sided Dildo?
Yes, you can. For instance, when performing vagina-to-vagina penetration, you can use a clit vibrator. In addition, consider using flavored lube during oral play.
How Does Double-Sided Dildo Masturbation Feel Like?
Double-sided dildo masturbation feels like two penises inside you, thrusting at the same time. If done right, you’ll experience intense orgasms. But I have to warn you, though, it can get addictive.
How Does a Double Dildo Work?
To use this dildo, place one end into your vagina and the other into your anus (or mouth when performing vagina to oral).
During partnered sex, you simply plug one end of the toy into your anus/vagina and the other into your partner’s anus/vagina. Once both ends are plugged in and the connection established, begin rocking back and forth.
Are Double-Ended Dildos Lesbian Sex Toys?
Not necessarily. Heterosexual people can also use these toys for vaginal to anal penetration during partnered or solo sex.
Can Gay Men Use Double-Ended Dildos?
Yes, they can. You can use a double-ended dildo if you have a vagina or anus. You’re twice as lucky if you have both (like myself).
