Quick links: The Do’s | The Don’ts | Before You Start | Practise Makes Perfect | The Penis Tip | Using Your hands | Talking Dirty | Being In Control | Introducing Sex Toys | How To Relax | The Gag Reflex | No-Gagging Magic Trick | Deep Throat Sprays
Here’s the thing. A lot of people seem to think that sucking a dick is a simple job involving a few techniques.
You put it in, you lick it about, job done.
While that is true for most dicks, there is a difference between getting a bratwurst and a staple sausage on a plate, since both require different methods of… well, tasting.
One requires a simple dip and swallow, while the other requires a mouthful – and then some.
It’s important to know that whilst it takes some mastery to successfully give a good head, everything is doable with a little practice, and so is taking in a massive dong.
Let’s dive in head first!
The Do’s
The great thing about sucking big dick is that the do’s are whatever you make them out to be. The only advice while sucking big cocks (or any sized cock, to be fair) is to stay confident.
Easier said than done of course, but being proactive, positive, and self-assured during the whole process matters. It’s also what makes a big difference between a good blowjob and an average one.
Think of it as having a glass of water after a hot day. Except for the glass of water, it is a penis, and there’s no way to stop the heat other than giving in to your insatiable thirst to down the whole dick.
Most of the joy from getting a fantastic blowjob comes from the enthusiasm behind it. Switching things up during some mouth action is heavily encouraged. Keeping it to just two positions and calling it a day isn’t gonna make for a life-changing knob bobbing.
But, adding props or straps, playing videos, or maybe even experimenting with kinky stuff can make the experience unforgettable.
And that is exactly what you’re aiming for when giving him the blowjob of his life.
The Don’ts
There are more don’ts than do’s when it comes to blowing dick. But, these are there for a good reason. When going down on a man, avoid touching areas he hasn’t consented to.
Some women love sucking dick and adding a little bit of butt action in between, to try and reach their man’s G-spot. But don’t just assume that that’s something everyone is gonna be into.
Another obvious piece of advice is to not, under any circumstance, ever use teeth – unless the man is into it of course. A dick is super sensitive, and teeth are very sharp, meaning the two don’t make for the best combo.
Keep any action to just the tongue so you don’t give him any unwanted surprises if you decide to experiment while in the moment.
The next rule of thumb: deciding to spice things up is good. Consuming spicy foods on the other hand does not lead to giving a good head.
Try to avoid any particularly pungent foods before going down on your man – it’s how you’ll both end up having an unpleasant experience.
Anything else you don’t want in the bedroom comes down to the two (or more) of you. This includes:
- making any loud noises,
- keeping eye contact,
- using hands,
- sticking to a consistent pace when fucking, and more.
Sucking Big Dick: What to Know Before Your Start
Blowjobs are all about keeping things tight, wet, and varied. The same goes for a huge cock as well. While it may be intimidating at first, there are as always certain ground rules to cover.
Most guys will definitely give detailed instructions on how they want to receive head since the end goal is to simply feel amazing.
Exactly what gets a person off really depends on the individual. However, always make sure to have a lot of spit on hand, a curious mouth, and some hands to spare.
For whoever is being sucked off, it’s all about not being too pushy. If you’re packing heat, that means the partner needs to adjust.
While deep throats probably feel a lot better than teasing, don’t just stick the whole thing in and hope for the best. Remember, the mouth does the big work here, and it occasionally needs its rest.
1. Practice Makes Perfect
The saying ‘practice makes perfect’ isn’t there for no reason. Licking, sucking, swallowing, or all of the above, can be learned to perfection with proper training. When it comes to giving head to a big cock, though, you especially need the practice to get it right.
“Licking, sucking, kissing, and penetrating can all be fun, so experiment and see what you and your partner enjoy.”
by Laura Erickson-Schroth & Jennifer Finney Boylan; Oxford University Press, 2014
from Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Resource for the Transgender Community
If you don’t have a man on hand, there’s always the option of purchasing a giant dildo that can fill in the void instead. If that isn’t possible, then buying the biggest cucumber in your local market should be.
Alternatively, just get a giant wooden roller, wrap it up with a condom and add some lube to mimic a hung dong. Just use anything you can find that will emulate a big dick and put your mouth to work.
2. The Tip
Porn scenario: Girl meets guy, guy makes girl deepthroat, guy orgasms after forty minutes.
That’s pretty much the gist of every blowjob video on the internet. However, conventional porn makes it seem that it’s all about the deepthroat. In fact, it’s actually all about the tip of the iceberg called a penis head.
When giving head to a man with a huge dick, it’s important to first focus on the tip. This is where most of the pleasure comes from. It is also where a simple act of spitting can do most of the work for you.
There is no sure way to please every single guy in the world.
But, there is some consistent advice to follow when deciding to suck the head.
Tongue Plus Non-Verbal Cues
Pay attention to his facial expressions. Listen to his moans. Feel the way his fingers tense up around your head. It’s all about the minor details that point to a nice cock sucking experience.
When it comes to the technique itself, the tongue is key. Swirl it around the tip with a nice amount of spit to stimulate his cock in its entirety.
Make sure to lick from the base to the top for a nice tease while keeping your mouth wide and your tongue pressed down at all times.
If you’ve ever seen porn, you will remember the ‘popping’ noise during head session. Clasp your lips together and suck inward before ‘popping’ out with a lot of spit on hand to make it extra pleasurable.
“Keep the head happy with some varied movements and rhythm and you’ll give him the best oral experience possible.”
by Cathy
from Sextopedia
3. Anal Sex, Oral Sex, Any Sex: Engage the Hands
While having the ability (and lack of gag reflex) to suck the whole thing in is impressive, most people are unable to do it.
This is where hands come in handy. It’s important to know that a penis isn’t self-lubricating, which means either saliva or flavored lube are your substitutes.
Keep your index finger and middle finger together on the top while your thumb works below. A simple circling motion will hit the spot just right – while the rest is down to an occasional lick or kiss.
Funny as it may sound, try the ‘grapefruit technique‘, but with less fruit involved. He’ll love how it feels since it stimulates about three things while keeping everything lubed up at the same time. There’s nothing quite like nailing the art of cock worship and making a man feel like you’re blowing and fucking him at once.
4. Talk Dirty
There is nothing wrong with a little dirty talking on the side during a blow job to get things heated up. Dirty talk means stroking a man’s cock at the same time you’re stroking his ego.
Once you start sucking, use a little mouth magic whenever off cock duty to share some filthy thoughts and details about his whole cock. Praise how big it is, how it can’t fit, how your mouth can barely take it in – you get the idea.
Start rubbing the tip gently while playing to his ego, and use some more mouth and tongue while you switch between using hands and words.
5. The Control is Yours
Most men with a huge penis can and will rail your throat if given the chance. Obviously, it’s something that feels good for them, but it may not necessarily feel so for you.
That’s why taking control is essential in giving a good blowjob and controlling the swallow load after the act.
Being able to suck in the whole shaft is more than likely going to prove impossible unless you’re positioned in a certain way. A big dildo (or vegetable) can make for good practice. But, generally, it’s about being on top and careful that it doesn’t go in too deep.
It’s also a great position to relax the throat by breathing in, taking it in inch by inch, going slowly.
6. Introduce Sex Toys
Something that will keep him busy if your whole mouth can’t, is a sex toy. Now, this is all very personal and can pretty much be any toy on the market.
“Sex toys range from aiding in masturbation to enhancing intimate relations between sexual partners.”
by Jodi O’Brien; SAGE Publications, 2009
from Encyclopedia of Gender and Society
If he enjoys pleasuring his prostate, then invest in some anal dildos or anal beads, which will be doing the work while your mouth and tongue focus on the head.
Make sure you use lube at all times. It’s not useful just during a fuck, but it can make for a great tool during a blow job as well.
Alternatively, if pressure is what you’re missing, invest in a cock ring. They are perfect for those who love sucking dongs and want to add a little extra pressure for the final orgasm.
Read more | How To Make a DIY Cock Ring
That way he can get his nut in without the need for jerking off, and you can prepare for a good cumshot. It’s an excellent combination of mouth, lips, and tongue that gives the perfect head.
Another way to use toys is to get yourself off while you suck cock.
In the meantime, mix in some dirty talking, and you’ll have him tongue-tied and blowing steam in no time!
7. All about Relaxation
Last but not least, it’s important to chill out before starting head – especially if it’s a big dick. Guys with big dicks know they’re packing some serious porn cock. This means they will probably have heard, seen, and experienced it all.
The simple anatomy of a human mouth makes it practically impossible for anything other than bite-sized pieces to go in when eating. So, there is no physical way to take in the whole penis without dislocating your jaw.
That’s why the focus should be on improving your blowjob technique. Also, make sure that it fits his preferences.
Most importantly, most men with a big dick do not expect you to take in the whole thing at once.
8. Sucking Cock: The Gag Reflex
Whatever technique you have prepared before sucking cock goes out the window if you’re going to end up choking on and potentially vomiting all over the man’s dick.
Those faced with a huge penis will find that the biggest challenge has to do with stopping your gag reflex from creating an uncomfortable experience for both people.
Nearly 74% of all people have a gag reflex that ranges from minor to severe in intensity, which can pose a problem when giving head.
The good news is that there are ways around it, even if you have a strong gag reflex.
9. The No-Gagging Magic Trick
While this is an old-fashioned method, it’s also a tried-and-true one.
Not a fan of buying any expensive sprays or medication to mitigate your gagging reflexes? Then, your fist is the next best option. It’s not a snake oil salesman tactic either, since it’s actually been peer-reviewed in a dentist study.
Research details both pressing onto a nerve and taking attention away from the deep throating by focusing on the palm instead.
Nevertheless, it’s a pretty useful trick. Still, it’s not 100% to work on everyone, as that depends on both your technique and how severe your reflex is.
10. Deep Throat Sprays
If you want to go for something that’s a little less manual when dealing with a big cock, Lovehoney.com suggests you opt for a deepthroating spray.
These are specialized spray bottles that contain various ingredients that give you tingles in the back of your throat. It essentially stops you from feeling anything at the back of your throat for a short period of time. So you can take huge loads (and a huge cock) without much of a hassle.
Obviously, ensure that the ingredients in the bottle won’t cause you any irritation or allergies before testing. Breaking out in hives in the middle of a blow job isn’t necessarily the most desirable outcome.
If everything checks out, spray some in before oral sex and watch that big dick disappear!
How to Suck Dick: Conclusion
Sucking big dick is all about the motion of the ocean rather than the rocking of the boat itself. Even so, having a big ship can help penetrate some deeper waters if used right. Sex and particularly oral sex just need three things: a mouth, lubrication, and some passion.
As long as you have his favorite moves down and memorized, you’re well on your way to becoming a mouth fucking expert!