This Is How Sex Gurus Ride a Dildo, Both Vulva & Penis Owners

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One of the best things about dildos is that you can actually ride them for as long as you want, and they won’t lose their ‘erection’.

Knowing how to ride a dildo is one of the best ways to experience sexual pleasures you never knew existed. This article explains everything and anything you need to know about dildo riding.

The article is reviewed by Sexologist Robert Thomas. And, I also used input from my boyfriend – Oliver, who helped me with putting together “guys dildo riding” section.

Key Takeaways

  • Men and women can ride dildos – these toys are not gender-specific.
  • The suction cup dildo will likely provide the best dildo riding experience.
  • The chair and squatting cowboy/girl sex positions are the best for dildo riding.
  • Consider adding sex toys like mounts, sex dolls, vibrators, and penis milking machines to enhance your riding experience.

Preparation: Set The Mood

You’ll need to set the mood to get the most out of your dildo riding experience. For example, I love playing erotic background music and topping it up with dim, romantic lighting. 

This works best mostly when I have all the time in the world to experience multiple orgasms. Of course, when you’re rushing off to work and you only have a few minutes to spare, chances are you won’t have a lot of time — and patience — to set up candles, music, dim lights, and all that stuff. 

Your environment aside, it’s also important that you prepare your mind before riding the dildo.

You’ll likely experience more pleasure when you’re relaxed, ready, and in the game, not when stressed and constantly worried about who’ll walk through the door and catch you with pants down. 

Fun fact, 7% of our dildo survey participants said they’ve been caught while using a dildo.

That said, here are some ideas to prepare yourself mentally, physically, and psychologically for the ride:

  • Turn off your phone, or put it on silent mode.
  • Relax your mind and muscles.
  • Think about your favorite sexual experience or desires. What turns you on? How do you like to be fucked? Fast, slow, or a combination of both?
  • Explore your body and focus on your most sensitive areas. For example, I love it when my partner plays with my nipples. If you’re a man, you’ll likely enjoy stroking your penis while thinking about your sexual fantasies. 
  • Start slow (it takes time to be completely turned on).
  • Ensure you have the right tools for the job.

Best Dildo Type For The Riding Job

suction cup dildo is one of the best dildos for riding. This is because the suction cup allows the dong to firmly attach itself to the surface where it’s mounted, giving you all the freedom you need to pound your inner walls. 

I love dildos because they allow me to explore my wildest sexual desires. And when it comes to riding, the possibilities are endless. Below, I’ve discussed some of the best gender-specific positions for riding a dildo.

Best Dildo Riding Positions

As a man, riding a dildo is one of the best ways to massage your prostate and achieve mind-blowing orgasms.

However, this will also depend on the riding position and the kind of dildo you opt for. 

If you’re a beginner, consider starting with a smaller dildo like the Lifelike Lover Classic Realistic Dildo 6 Inch from Lovehoney because of its bendable shafts, making the penetration easier.

1. Chair Cowboy/Girl

The chair cowgirl position is the best when riding solo. It’s like giving your chair a lap dance. When done right, this dildo riding position provides access to pleasure points you didn’t know existed.

For best results, follow these steps:

  • Place a suction cup on a clean, hard-surface chair,
  • Get lubed up,
  • Sit on the chair facing its back,
  • Slowly insert the tip of the dildo up your asshole and begin bouncing up and down,
  • Relax your muscles as the dildo navigates your inner walls,
  • Increase the tempo as needed.

2. Squatting Cowboy/Girl

The squatting cowboy/girl is also another great way to ride a dildo. The best thing about this position is that it keeps your asshole wide open, surrendering the passcode to your inner walls.

This position works best for both skinny and chubby individuals..

The only thing you will probably not like about it is that it could easily drain all your energy. You’ll probably be drenched in sweat the first few minutes, but an orgasm is worth working hard for. 

Here’s how the squatting cowgirl/boy works:

  • Place the dildo on a clean, flat surface, preferably a tile floor,
  • Lube up the dildo and then squat over it,
  • Lube up your anus or vagina, and then gently insert the dildo’s tip,
  • Begin bouncing slowly as you relax your muscles,
  • Increase the tempo as needed.

If you’re a man, you may want to apply some lube on your hand and rub your penis as you ride the dildo in this position. This guarantees double pleasure.

As a woman, your pussy will likely be frothing with wetness when you insert the dildo up your but. For best results, use the tip of your fingers to rub your clitoris.

But I must warn you that rubbing your clit or penis with your fingers while riding the dildo creates intense pleasure.

This is exactly why I use the Extra Powerful Multispeed Mains Powered Magic Wand Vibrator from Lovehoney. All I need to do is hold the vibrating tip against my clit as I ride. I find that easier and even more pleasurable. This of course isn’t the only vibrator type for this job.

As a man, consider using a blowjob machine as you ride the dildo. My ex used to love the Onyx+ from Kiiroo. This boyfriend snatcher delivers up to 140 strokes per minute, and I don’t blame him for getting hooked. There was no way I was gonna match that! 

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How Vulva Owners Can Ride a Dildo?

Women find it easier to ride dildos than men. This is because the anus doesn’t lubricate or stretch as much as a vagina. 

That said, here’s how to ride a dildo as a woman:

  • Place the dildo on a clean, flat surface, preferably a tile floor or the edge of a bathtub.
  • Use the suction cup to firmly attach the dildo to the flat surface.
  • Apply some lube to the dildo and your vagina.
  • Slowly sit on the dildo and then insert the tip gently.
  • Begin moving your torso up and down slowly.
  • Go deeper as your muscles relax.

How Can Women Take Their Anus for a Ride?

For first things first, you’ll need an anal dildo. 

It’s important to note that the anus doesn’t lubricate itself naturally. Therefore, you’ll need lots of lube to ride anally. In addition, you’ll need to choose the right anal dildo for you.

Don’t get me wrong, though – if you’re comfortable using the same vaginal dildo for your anal play, go for it.

“Fingers and toys should not be moved between the mouth, vagina, or rectum without first cleaning them.”

by Sana Loue, Martha Sajatovic, Siran M. Koroukian; Springer, 2008
from Encyclopedia of Aging and Public Health

Personally, I love using anal dildos for anal play and vaginal dildos for vaginal play. Using two different phalluses helps avoid cross-contamination and eliminates the risk of developing yeast or any other infection. 

I love it that way for two reasons:

  • Anal dildos are designed to navigate your anus, making the experience less painful and more enjoyable.
  • Anal dildos are curved for extra pleasure and the suction cup versions that I own, attach beautifully to any flat surface.

All I need is a water-based lubricant and some privacy to make the magic happen.

Speaking of curved dildos, I’m sure I’m not the only one who loves these banana-shaped monsters. According to results from the biggest dildo survey conducted by Sextopedia experts between October 2021 and July 2022, at least 16% of the 2468 participants admitted that they preferred curved dildos. 

To put things into perspective, curved dildos were the third most popular option. Realistic dildos were the most popular, enjoying 23% support, while textured ones came second at 20%.

Assuming that you’ve found the right anal toy for you, here’s all you need to do:

  • Place the sex toy on a flat surface, and ensure the suction cup firmly holds it,
  • Apply some lubricant to the dildo and your anus,
  • Gently squat over the dildo and insert the tip,
  • Beginning by moving your torso up and down slowly as you relax your muscles,
  • Increase the tempo as you become more comfortable,
  • For next-level pleasure, consider using a clit vibrator at the same time.

How Men Can Ride a Dildo?

Let’s forget the G-spot for a minute and talk about the P-spot (the male G-spot). 

First of all, the P in ‘P-Spot’ stands for ‘prostate’. So the whole concept of riding a dildo is to stimulate the prostate, leading to incredible orgasms. If the prostate massage is done right, this orgasm can be more intense than a traditional, penis-induced orgasm.

“Massaging the prostate may create indescribable oh-so-good orgasm. It’s because the prostate encloses a plethora of nerve bundles that are as high in number as those in the clit.”

by Robert Thomas
from Sextopedia

In fact, some studies describe anal orgasms as the ‘Super O’, a true testimony of just how intense they can be. 

Now, when it comes to riding a dildo, as a man, there are a few things you need to know. Firstly, your anus doesn’t lubricate itself naturally. Therefore, it’s best to invest in some good lube. 

Secondly, you’ll need to start slowly until your muscles begin to expand and feel more comfortable. After that, you can increase the tempo as you desire. 

Lastly, an anal dildo works better than a vaginal one.

This is because anal dildos are usually slightly curved for better navigation in your rectum, which is also naturally curved.

That said, here are some quick tips on taking your dildo for a ride:

  • Choose your preferred anal dildo riding position from the options we discussed above (I recommend the squatting cowgirl/boy position for better penetration,
  • Use the suction cup to mount the dildo on a flat surface,
  • Apply some lube on the dildo and more to your butthole,
  • Squat over the dildo and slowly insert the tip,
  • Begin rocking up and down slowly and gently,
  • Go deeper as you begin to feel more comfortable.

Riding a Dildo Together With Your Partner

Using sex toys with your partner makes the whole experience even more exciting. For more pleasure, I highly recommend trying different positions with these toys. 

Here are a few of my personal favorites:

Idea #1 | The “Banging Bench”

Mount two dildos under a banging bench and then sit on the bench with your partner facing the same direction (like you would on a motorcycle).

Get lubed, insert the dildo into your anus or vagina, then begin to ride. Have your partner wrap their arms around your waist from behind for more stability. Add some dirty talk to the ride, and you’ll certainly experience an indescribable pleasure. Here is a video explaining how a banging bench works.

To spice things up a little bit, remove the raised bar from the bottom of the banging bench, and then have your partner lay underneath the bench, face up.

While in that position, use your dildo in your vagina and have your partner eat your asshole while rubbing their penis or fingering themselves.

You’ll experience mind-blowing orgasms.

Idea # 2 | The “Eye Lock”

Here’s another secret move you may want to try with your partner. I always do it with my boyfriend, and we both love it.

Mount a suction cup dildo on a clean floor. Get lubed and squat facing your partner. Next, have your partner mount another dildo on the floor and squat facing you. Slowly insert the dildo and have your partner do the same and then hold hands as you ride together. 

For the best result, add some dirty talk or rub each other’s sexual organs. This always ends in explosive orgasms.

The bottom line is that there is no limit to what you and your partner can do with a dong. A little bit of creativity is all you need.

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What’s your favorite dildo riding position? Feel free to share it in the comment section below. Who knows, we could all learn something new!

How To Introduce Other Sex Toys To Riding Joy?

To experience unbelievable backdoor orgasms, your need to relax. The same applies to your brain — you won’t enjoy the experience if you’re nervous.

So while lighting candles, playing erotic lounge music, and installing romantic lighting can help set the mood, you also need to prepare your boy pussy for penetration.

Once you’ve followed the steps for riding a dildo, as discussed above, it’s time to introduce other sex toys to the ride.

Clitoral Vibrator

Many different clitoral vibrators on the market can help add more adventure and pleasure to the ride. But I must warn you; the pleasure will likely be so intense that you might have a rough time simultaneously trying to ride and stimulate your clit. 

If you struggle with that, you may want to use a remote-controlled vibrator. For instance, the Fifty Shades of Grey Relentless Vibrations Remote Panty Vibrator from Lovehoney has 10 patterns and 6 intensity levels for the ultimate pleasure.

Extra Dildo

Yes, you read that right; you can add one more (or even more than one!!!) dildo to the ride for maximum pleasure and muscle relaxation. 

Here’s all you need to do:

Get a suction cup dildo and mount it on a wall. Give the dildo on the wall a blowjob as you ride the one on the floor.

Depending on your flexibility, you may mount the suction cup dildo on the floor and suck it from that position as you ride the other one. 

The best thing about this option is that it is not gender-specific. It works for both men and women.

Penis Milking Machines

Penis milking machines will take your experience to a whole new level. As mentioned, my boyfriend’s favorite Kiiroo Onyx 2 comes with a speed of up to 140 strokes per minute, and the best thing about this machine is that it is discreet, lightweight, and compact

Get lubed up, and then use the penis milker to suck the life out of your penis while riding the dildo.

Before you know it, you’ll be shaking like an old washing machine as you release every ounce of cum into the machine.

Torsos

Let’s say goodbye to suction cups for a moment because there’s a new sheriff in town; the torso dildo. As the name suggests, a torso dildo is a dildo mounted on an artificial torso. 

As a result, you won’t need a suction cup to ride this dildo. Instead, all you’ll need to do is place the torso on a flat surface, mount it, and then enjoy the right to orgasmville

One thing I love about torso dildos is that they’re much smaller than full-size adult sex toys, making them more discreet.

I don’t have to constantly worry about someone bumping into my sex doll in my room. Secondly, because I don’t need a suction cup, torso dildos are more stable and pleasurable to ride. 

Additionally, torso phalluses are more realistic than standard dildos, which is an instant turn-on for me. I particularly love the skin-to-skin contact these toys provide when riding; they even feel more realistic when I squirt all over them. 

Riding a torso dildo is pretty easy – all you need to do is mount it on a flat surface, get lubed, and enjoy the ride. 

Sex Dolls

Now, if you’re looking for a more realistic feeling, with chiseled abs, broad chests, a cute face, and all that, you may consider investing in a full-size sex doll.

These dolls are becoming increasingly popular because of their realistic feel. But that’s not all, here’s why many people love full-size sex dolls: 

  • Ideal for practicing various sex positions, including riding.
  • Perfect for hand-free pleasure, especially if you have a physical disability that prevents you from holding dildos and/or other sex toys.
  • Comes in handy for individuals who aren’t interested in a real relationship.

Lastly, and most importantly, sex dolls are customizable. For example, you can choose between seven different faces for this male sex doll named Oliver from Spartan Lover.

And that’s not all.

You can change the body material, penis size/shape, eye colors, hairstyle, etc. 

Dildo Mounts

It’s important to note that dildo mounts may not support all types of dildos. For this reason, you need to do your research well in advance. Here are a few options worth considering. 

If you’re looking for a great dildo mount for bouncing, consider the BonBon from Liberator. The good thing about this mount is that it fits most dildos, including those with flared bases. And if you love a little bit of spanking, this mount is great for practice. 

On the other hand, the Liberator Wing is perfect for mounting two different toys. Are you thinking what I’m thinking? Yes, you can use it for anal and vaginal penetration. And when not supporting a dildo, this foam mount also doubles up as a sex cushion. 

What’s Important To Keep In Mind?

You need to keep a few things in mind before riding a dildo, whether alone or with your partner, as discussed below.

Safety Comes First 

Safety is the first and most important. While many dildos are safe, some are not. That’s why you should educate yourself on the following topics:

Pick a Dildo That’s Right For The Job

In addition, plan ahead by considering how you intend to use the dildo. For example, if you’d like to use the dildo on a floor, you’ll need a suction cup dildo.

If you want to use it on a mount, you’ll need a mount that fits that particular dildo.

Anal Riding Needs Lube

Ensure you invest in good lube, especially when talking your butthole for a ride. If you’re unsure where to start choosing the right lube, this article covers seven of the best lubes worth trying. 

Dildo Riding FAQs

Can I Use a Non-Suction Cup Dildo for Riding?

Yes, you can use a non-suction cup dildo for riding. All you’ll need is a compatible dildo mount.

Can I Use a Firm Dildo, Like Glass, Metal, or Wood for Riding?

Technically, you can ride any dildo as long as it is firmly attached to whatever platform you choose to mount it.

For example, many pillow dildo harnesses support almost all types of dildos, including those made from glass, metal, and wood. 

Can I Use a Vibrating Dildo for Riding?

You can ride a vibrating dildo. In fact, that’s one of the best ways to achieve orgasms while riding. 

Authors

  • I love all “things” that can be played with, especially sex toys that are curvey and realistic at the same time. Jokes aside, I have great instincts when it comes to picking out a new dildo or vibrator or any other sex toy that can actually make you orgasm. Sextopedia has been my sweet-sweet home for about 3 years and I absolutely ENJOY TESTING & reviewing new sex toys. In my reviews, I’ll always tell you what I think, and how it feels, and I don’t sugarcoat anything. Learn more.

  • Robert Thomas is a sexologist, researcher, and writer who loves to explore and investigate everything that is related to bedroom action. He strives to improve couples' sex life by challenging the advice given in research papers, books, magazines, and on the internet in general. Robert loves to write about sex, BDSM, as well as tips & tricks on how couples can introduce new sex toys to their relationship. He has been proudly featured in Healthline, Bustle, Cosmopolitan, Self, AskMen, MelMagazine, Kinkly, Jack&Jill Adult, and in many other publications. Learn more. LinkedIn