Mistress BDSM Explained

Since the time of the Marquis de Sade, the erotic world has changed the rules of the sex game.

The term BDSM was first released in 1991, but the roots of sexual pleasure and power have always existed. People in the past enjoyed dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism, although some of these terms were not yet known.

BDSM Mistress Explained

BDSM is a term used for many sexual activities such as performing role games, power exchange, causing pain, sadism-masochism, dominance-submission, physical restrictions, etc.

The Mistress is a dominant female aka dominatrix in a top/bottom relationship in BDSM scenarios or relationships. The term is a feminative version of the word “master”. The Mistress is the leading female figure who takes command of the submissive partner. 

The Story of the Seductress Phyllis

An example of Mistress is the well-known story of Phyllis and the great philosopher Aristotle who lived in 300 B.C. The famous philosopher begged Alexander to avoid the attractive seductress Phyllis, but he himself fell into her clutches. She agrees to ride him on the condition that she performs the dominatrix role. 

The story of the extraordinary woman Phyllis demonstrates that a woman’s beauty and charm can outshine even the best philosopher’s knowledge. Therefore, this was an inspiration for many artists in the past, and even today. Some are Albrecht Dürer, Alessandro Turchi, Hans Baldung, Lucas Cranach the Elder and many more.

About the Mistress Submissive Partner

The Mistress is a woman that has control, power, and authority over the submissive. 

The submissive can be a man or a female dreaming of being controlled and dominated by a woman. The Mistress has psychological and physical power over the submissive. The domination is physical when it involves pain, restrains, and various sex instruments like whips, clamps, etc. On the other hand, psychological power includes insulting or issuing instructions and orders to the submissive.

Moreover, the Mistress can be named like Dominatrix, Madame, Domme or Pro-Domme. All of these terms can be found in the sex industry and the erotic literature, and they describe females that have dominative power over their submissive clients or partners.

The Role of the Mistress

The Mistress’s submissive partner cannot participate with their fantasy in the sexual game or the sexual act. This happens because the control goes to the female, the leader of the erotic game.

Bondage, humiliation, facesitting, ballbusting, forced feminization, forced chastity, forced orgasm, and pegging are common BDSM activities for a Mistress. Non-sexual behaviors in which submissives serve a dominating female can also be included.

Usually, the Mistress doesn’t practice oral sex, and she prohibits her client or partner from masturbating during the session. Also, both participants must provide their consent, and safety precautions are taken in the form of a safeword or the BDSM known worldwide traffic light system.

The safe word “red” means stop, “amber” is for stop and let’s discuss, and the term “green” is used when everything is going smoothly and nicely.

Summary

The Mistress is the one owning the erotic game – the person, the rules, the commands. There are BDSM community sites where they can log in and find the perfect Mistress for those who want to accomplish their dreams with a Dominatrix.

The dominance and power Mistress uses are not only a sexual action but also a way of living. Being a Mistress is considered a complex and very responsible position in the world that can be dangerously fulfilling and liberating at the same time. 

She is the woman with a big ‘W’; she is her own hero, and she leads her fantasies with her fireless heart. The Mistress is much more than a Femme fatale – she is a follower of her deepest sexual dreams!

Author

  • Robert Thomas is a sexologist, researcher, and writer who loves to explore and investigate everything that is related to bedroom action. He strives to improve couples' sex life by challenging the advice given in research papers, books, magazines, and on the internet in general. Robert loves to write about sex, BDSM, as well as tips & tricks on how couples can introduce new sex toys to their relationship. He has been proudly featured in Healthline, Bustle, Cosmopolitan, Self, AskMen, MelMagazine, Kinkly, Jack&Jill Adult, and in many other publications. Learn more. LinkedIn

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